WRITING YOUR WEDDING VOWS – Here’s a few tips!

Summergrove Estate Carool NSW 2017

JUST A FEW IDEAS FROM ME  Writing your own ceremony vows? Read these tips first- I hope they help you.

Writing your own vows might seem scary and nerve-wracking, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are some tips to get you through it and don’t forget to ask me for help any time. On your wedding day your vows can be repeated after me or on a lovely palm card or booklet where you read them to one another.  I will make you something nice (- for you to keep too)

Your vows can be short, long – however you like and they can be the same or completely different. If you like you can send them to me separately so they are kept a secret and awesome gift of loving words to each other on your wedding day.

For a marriage to be legal in Australia this is the bare minimum vows you need to say and some couples choose to say just this -That is absolutely fine –  you must do what you both are happy with – It’s your wedding day, your way. “I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, YOUR NAME, take you, YOUR PARTNER’S NAME, to be my lawfully wedded Bride/ Groom/Partner”

Should you want to say longer more personal vows please read on.

Take some time to think about your partner, your life together and your future.

Please don’t stress about what to write and talk with me anytime for ideas or to share what you have written.

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 Think about these questions just to get some ideas

  • What did you think when you first your partner? Was it love at first sight?
  • At what moment did you know this person was the one you wanted to marry? Why?
  • What are the little things they do for you that you appreciate?
  • What do you want to work on in your relationship to make it even stronger? Tip: Like lots of these it can be something funny or quirky and not always serious -it’s up to you. eg Emptying the dishwasher 😊
  • What have they taught you? How to play Xbox?
  • What inspires you about them?
  • What do you respect most about them?
  • What does marriage mean to you?
  • What are you most looking forward to for your shared future?
  • What goals and values do you both share?
  • What’s your favourite thing about them?
  • What’s the most annoying thing that they do? You love them anyway 🙂
  • What have you experienced together that you never would have on your own?
  • What hard times have you gone through together?
  • What have you supported each other through?
  • What do you want to accomplish together?
  • How has your life gotten better since meeting your partner?
  • What qualities do you most admire in one another?

You might like to use some of these promise/vow starters:

  • I promise to give you
  • I promise to treat you
  • I promise to tell you
  • I promise to love you
  • I promise to respect you
  • I promise to laugh you
  • I promise to be
  • I promise to always encourage you
  • I promise that we
  • I vow to
  • I will always
  • Together, we
  • I will never
  • You make
  • You give you
  • Because of you,
  • We share
  • Life is better infinitely with you in it because
  • I am so proud of
  • Your smile makes me
  • I admire
  • You have taught me
  • I look forward to
  • I can’t believe that
  • The first time I saw you, I
  • I realised I loved you when

Your wedding vows can be funny or serious or a mixture  – it is totally up to you.

Talk with each other about what you might like to say on your wedding day. There is lots of information on the internet that you can research – the main thing is to feel comfortable with what you are going to say on the day  and always ask me if you are worried about something .

On your wedding day I will be there to help you !

LOVE ISSooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favourite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams.


8 years ago I  became a celebrant and from day one, following my  lifelong strong honest belief in social justice I campaigned  and made it known from the start, that I believed LOVE IS LOVE and that it was an equal rights issue /social justice issue – why could people identifying in LGBTQIA  community not marry?
In recent times I have had horrible rude messages sent to me-they have posted on my wedding Facebook pages – I haven’t replied or shared because I think these people are probably best not replied to. I remembered my dear Dad Neil RIP say “Heather if you can’t say anything nice….don’t say anything at all” and I only disclosed a few of these more offensive concerning comments to my husband Andrew because I knew he would, otherwise,  protectively and lovingly, get worried about me.
So from yesterday  we celebrate LOVE IS LOVE! and as a celebrant I cannot wait to  have the ABSOLUTE privilege and pleasure of ALL marrying couples  ALL who are in love !!!!