9 years ago I named my Marriage Celebrant business ALL WEDDINGS because I believed that we should ALL be able to marry regardless of gender but I never thought it would take till the end of 2017 to happen! But now I am so happy and so proud to be the Marriage Celebrant of couples who are from our LGBTQIA community. I really prefer not putting labels on people as I think we should not be so judgemental and more accepting of others – surely more love and kindness in the world can only make it a better place for us all.
So now my name really is perfect for my Marriage Celebrant Business!!
ALL WEDDINGS are special and that is why I only do one a day. It’s such a privilege to be asked to be a couple’s Marriage Celebrant and be part of their wonderful wedding day that I want to really focus on them and their ceremony. It’s just not me to rush from one ceremony to another. Way to stressful! What’s happens if the couple are late for some reason? I don’t want to be stressed or cause more stress for them on their special day and say “Hurry up – I have to go!” I like to get there early and welcome and meet guests and then be there for my couple – settling any of their nerves and sharing their love story in a beautiful wedding ceremony, written just for them.
So bring on 2018 and lots of weddings – let’s have lots of LOVE!
John Lennon sang
Love is real, real is love
Love is feeling, feeling love
Love is wanting to be loved
Love is touch, touch is love
Love is reaching, reaching love
Love is asking to be loved
Love is you
You and me
Love is knowing
We can be
Love is free, free is love
Love is living, living love
Love is needing to be loved
JUST A FEW IDEAS FROM ME Writing your own ceremony vows? Read these tips first- I hope they help you.
Writing your own vows might seem scary and nerve-wracking, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are some tips to get you through it and don’t forget to ask me for help any time. On your wedding day your vows can be repeated after me or on a lovely palm card or booklet where you read them to one another. I will make you something nice (- for you to keep too)
Your vows can be short, long – however you like and they can be the same or completely different. If you like you can send them to me separately so they are kept a secret and awesome gift of loving words to each other on your wedding day.
For a marriage to be legal in Australia this is the bare minimum vows you need to say and some couples choose to say just this -That is absolutely fine – you must do what you both are happy with – It’s your wedding day, your way. “I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, YOUR NAME, take you, YOUR PARTNER’S NAME, to be my lawfully wedded Bride/ Groom/Partner”
Should you want to say longer more personal vows please read on.
Take some time to think about your partner, your life together and your future.
Please don’t stress about what to write and talk with me anytime for ideas or to share what you have written.
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Think about these questions just to get some ideas
What did you think when you first your partner? Was it love at first sight?
At what moment did you know this person was the one you wanted to marry? Why?
What are the little things they do for you that you appreciate?
What do you want to work on in your relationship to make it even stronger? Tip: Like lots of these it can be something funny or quirky and not always serious -it’s up to you. eg Emptying the dishwasher 😊
What have they taught you? How to play Xbox?
What inspires you about them?
What do you respect most about them?
What does marriage mean to you?
What are you most looking forward to for your shared future?
What goals and values do you both share?
What’s your favourite thing about them?
What’s the most annoying thing that they do? You love them anyway 🙂
What have you experienced together that you never would have on your own?
What hard times have you gone through together?
What have you supported each other through?
What do you want to accomplish together?
How has your life gotten better since meeting your partner?
What qualities do you most admire in one another?
You might like to use some of these promise/vow starters:
I promise to give you
I promise to treat you
I promise to tell you
I promise to love you
I promise to respect you
I promise to laugh you
I promise to be
I promise to always encourage you
I promise that we
I vow to
I will always
I will never
You give you
Because of you,
Life is better infinitely with you in it because
I am so proud of
Your smile makes me
You have taught me
I look forward to
I can’t believe that
The first time I saw you, I
I realised I loved you when
Your wedding vows can be funny or serious or a mixture – it is totally up to you.
Talk with each other about what you might like to say on your wedding day. There is lots of information on the internet that you can research – the main thing is to feel comfortable with what you are going to say on the day and always ask me if you are worried about something .
On your wedding day I will be there to help you !
LOVE IS – Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favourite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams.
8 years ago I became a celebrant and from day one, following my lifelong strong honest belief in social justice I campaigned and made it known from the start, that I believed LOVE IS LOVE and that it was an equal rights issue /social justice issue – why could people identifying in LGBTQIA community not marry?
In recent times I have had horrible rude messages sent to me-they have posted on my wedding Facebook pages – I haven’t replied or shared because I think these people are probably best not replied to. I remembered my dear Dad Neil RIP say “Heather if you can’t say anything nice….don’t say anything at all” and I only disclosed a few of these more offensive concerning comments to my husband Andrew because I knew he would, otherwise, protectively and lovingly, get worried about me.
So from yesterday we celebrate LOVE IS LOVE! and as a celebrant I cannot wait to have the ABSOLUTE privilege and pleasure of ALL marrying couples ALL who are in love !!!!
So you don’t want wedding photos full of guests with phones and cameras in their faces but instead you want to see their smiling faces as they truly listen to the words of your wedding…..
So you don’t want a guest jumping up in the aisle taking a photo of you while your photographer is trying to capture that special shot of you walking to your Groom…..
Then maybe an “unplugged” wedding is for you – this means your guests put away their phones and cameras and enjoy your wedding ceremony as your photographer/s and maybe videographer get to take lots of wonderful professional photos .
As a Celebrant I can nicely let your guests know what you want with regard to photos and social media. I do this before the beginning of your ceremony so as they are all aware of what the protocol is for photos.Guests seem to like this as they know what you want and they always seem happy to cooperate.
You may like to have guests take photos but ask them to be mindful and respectful of the professional photographer/s and videographer – just ensuring they don’t get in their way. Before a wedding I often introduce the photographer and videographer to your guest just so they know exactly who they are – it makes it a friendly comfortable pre wedding atmosphere.
This is an example I could say before your wedding ceremony – I will say whatever you two want- it is your day and totally your way!
Dear family and friends please put your phones on silent and put them away. Today we have a fantastic photographer and videographer who will capture all the magic moments in this wedding. You can sit back relax and enjoy. You are welcome to take photos before and after the ceremony but please post your photos on social media after the Bride and Groom have posted their photos first. At the end of the ceremony please allow our then happily married couple and their bridal party to walk down the aisle followed by their parents and then please go and give them lots of hugs and kisses of congratulations. Thank you for kindly listening and you cooperation this is the beginning of an absolutely beautiful wedding ceremony.
For more ideas about “unplugged” wedding ceremonies – there are lots of options- just ask me I would love to help you have a wonderful wedding ceremony and precious photos of your special day.
All Weddings are special – large, small, fancy or no frills – this one was pretty exciting! Marrying a couple at SeaWorld on the Gold Coast QLD – it’s not often you get to pat a dolphin on your wedding day WOW! That is pretty special.
When I heard I was going to marry a couple at SeaWorld and dolphins were involved I Googled (of course) Dolphins and what they symbolise.
Peace and harmony
Playfulness and joy
Perfect for the day two people totally in love become husband and wife.
Sometimes we cannot help being late for things and the rumour goes that it is fashionable or a tradition that you are late for your wedding. It is just a rumour!
Recently I have had a couple of Brides 45 minutes and one Bride an hour late- there was no traffic issue. In one case the Bride’s dear Grandmother, as a guest was sitting in the shade out of the sun, but non the less she still got so hot that she was taken home so she and several other guests looking after her missed the whole ceremony and in another case there were 75 guests at the beach wedding but the Bride was an hour and a quarter late – we had 50 guests when the Bride arrived and she missed out on lots of photos because of being late.
Please really think about how long you are going to make your Groom and guests wait.
Why are you late?
A good way of ensuring you are on time is that you have all of your makeup and hair people, drivers and photographer/s all running on time – read the contract you make with them carefully, add in an inclusion that they are to be on time or if running late you pay less. I am sure this way they will be on time.
I pride myself on being a totally dedicated celebrant offering totally unique ceremonies, written from scratch with your total input. I will help you any way I can to make your wedding day the best day ever!
Some celebrants have a penalty for lateness – I have discussed with many celebrants and a popular reasonable fee for lateness that works for them is you pay $50 for every 20 minutes over the set wedding ceremony time.
I will get to your wedding well before the 20 minutes by law, that is required and I think it is fair that the Bride be up to 20 minutes late because after that it really impacts on your Groom and your guests but after 20 minutes …
I only do one wedding a day because I think every wedding is truly special and I am not into production line weddings.
So after all these words I do not want to add another fee so please be respectful of being on time or just a little late. I am a very honest person so I just want to bring this to your attention.
I just love this photo – they say not to work with animals and children – I so disagree! Having children at a wedding is so special. These three came all the way from Adelaide with their mum and dad and grandparents and at Currumbin Beach QLD. They took part in the intimate wedding ceremony of their parents. It was just beautiful and you can see the joy and fun they had!
I was a teacher for many years so sharing some time with kids again I really enjoy plus I always have some chub chubs or treat for the kids.